very true, relate able, and yes you no longer understand the difference between sarcasm, exaggeration, and serious talking… you end up having to rethink everything you said or you were told… it’s a torture ..
This is my entire life. I’ve always had a hard time understanding people, and they gave me a lot of hell as a result.
It’s like being stuck playing a game where everyone knows the rules except you, nobody will tell you the rules, and the moment you break one of the rules that you don’t know, you catch flack from everyone.
Being as Aspie isn’t a problem in itself so much as the fact that almost everyone else isn’t one. It’s difficult to trust people when despite you always being honest and open with them they often try to deceive you or take advantage of you.
One of my all-time favourite writer is H. P. Lovecraft. He wasn’t a literature genious or something, he wrote to weird tales in the 1920s and 1930s for money, but I think he is one of the most influential horror writer ever, the creator of so-called cosmic horror genre.
Also, he was antisemitic. I do not stand beside that at all, but he did not write hate-speech in his books, he does not use his work for propaganda or anything. He kept his work entirely separate from his political beliefs, and it comes up mostly in his private letters.
You have to be able to view people in 3 dimensions. Just because they stand beside something that you feel unacceptable, you must not view that act as that would describe their entire personality and all their values. Maybe they are mistaken, or they have their own good reasons to think what they think.
And to think like that, you will need forgiveness and humility. I am not saying it is easy, but I am quite convinced that this is right. People say awful things a lot, but that does not make them aweful. It makes them human.
Honest question here. How can we (I) help those conversations/rehearsals? Explain? Use simpler social queues? Be patient on processing time? I expect it will vary from person to person but what do people find useful? I don’t have autism or anything but it still take even me a long time to process emotional responses. (Slowly making my way through all of these, beautiful work)
very true, relate able, and yes you no longer understand the difference between sarcasm, exaggeration, and serious talking…
you end up having to rethink everything you said or you were told… it’s a torture ..
Thanks for giving your protagonist vitiligo and not making a huge deal out of it. 🙂
Didn’t even noticed it before you pointed it out
I came here to say this too. I have a friend with vitiligo, and it’s so nice to see her represented somewhere and not have it be the main plot point.
Pointing out how different people are isn’t representation to me.
Although I do have a rule for myself recently, any new depcom character cannot be white, there are enough white characters already.
This is me every single day.
This is my entire life. I’ve always had a hard time understanding people, and they gave me a lot of hell as a result.
It’s like being stuck playing a game where everyone knows the rules except you, nobody will tell you the rules, and the moment you break one of the rules that you don’t know, you catch flack from everyone.
One of my many life stories. Thank you for capturing that.
Amazing work.
Being as Aspie isn’t a problem in itself so much as the fact that almost everyone else isn’t one. It’s difficult to trust people when despite you always being honest and open with them they often try to deceive you or take advantage of you.
Let me tell something that may help.
One of my all-time favourite writer is H. P. Lovecraft. He wasn’t a literature genious or something, he wrote to weird tales in the 1920s and 1930s for money, but I think he is one of the most influential horror writer ever, the creator of so-called cosmic horror genre.
Also, he was antisemitic. I do not stand beside that at all, but he did not write hate-speech in his books, he does not use his work for propaganda or anything. He kept his work entirely separate from his political beliefs, and it comes up mostly in his private letters.
You have to be able to view people in 3 dimensions. Just because they stand beside something that you feel unacceptable, you must not view that act as that would describe their entire personality and all their values. Maybe they are mistaken, or they have their own good reasons to think what they think.
And to think like that, you will need forgiveness and humility. I am not saying it is easy, but I am quite convinced that this is right. People say awful things a lot, but that does not make them aweful. It makes them human.
Honest question here. How can we (I) help those conversations/rehearsals? Explain? Use simpler social queues? Be patient on processing time? I expect it will vary from person to person but what do people find useful?
I don’t have autism or anything but it still take even me a long time to process emotional responses. (Slowly making my way through all of these, beautiful work)
this makes me wonder if i’m an aspie or just a little socially inept