In my case, *I’m* the one who’s poisonous. I feel sorry for the people who care about me, can’t understand why they stick around. Must be love. I’m thankful for it, tho.
This is definitely what it is. If they ignore you, constantly, you think it’s something you’ve done, so you accept it. If they call you names, it’s probably not even as bad as you say to yourself, so you shrug it off. If they hit you, you assume it’s because you’re doing something wrong and deserve it. In my opinion, it’s one of the worst and most dangerous parts of being depressed in a relationship.
Eventually you start to believe that you’ve done something to deserve it. I’ve been there. You start to think that the other person isn’t bad, you’re just a fuck up.
At that point you don’t think you deserve positive attention, so you either stay in the same fucked up relationship, or you bounce from abuser to abuser.
That’s probably open to interpretation. Either the guy is a a liar and using the “my last gf/bf abused me” line to get chicks or is now unable to hold on to any relationship or she is just blind to the fact that she is in an abusive relationship.
”What “you can’t love another until you love yourself” is trying (and failing) to convey is that if you hate yourself, it makes it very hard to respect anyone who would love a piece of shit like you. And without respect there can be no love. Sooner or later, the depressed person starts wondering what is WRONG with their partner that they stay with such a horrible person as themselves and before long that can turn into suspicion, jealousy, doubt, distancing behaviours, lashing out, and even a cycle of abuse.”
the male think he deserve a toxic relation, so he end comimg back to it
It may also be a pattern learned as a child since depression and mental illness often run in families. Trying to get love and attention from someone incapable of it sets the bar pretty low.That last panel was startling and genius I think – how easily the depressed character can slip back into old ways of thinking.
I’ve heard that some people feel that either they’re being treated too nicely, or that any argument or problem they have with their healthier relationship is proof that they need the toxic person in their life to help them, thus, the last panel.
nnnh hhhhhhf this fucking kills to read but i’ll be damned if it isn’t validating ú.=.ù
In my case, *I’m* the one who’s poisonous. I feel sorry for the people who care about me, can’t understand why they stick around. Must be love. I’m thankful for it, tho.
It doesn’t blind you to the abuse; it makes you think that’s all you deserve. ?
Truth
This is definitely what it is. If they ignore you, constantly, you think it’s something you’ve done, so you accept it. If they call you names, it’s probably not even as bad as you say to yourself, so you shrug it off. If they hit you, you assume it’s because you’re doing something wrong and deserve it. In my opinion, it’s one of the worst and most dangerous parts of being depressed in a relationship.
Truth lol
Eventually you start to believe that you’ve done something to deserve it. I’ve been there. You start to think that the other person isn’t bad, you’re just a fuck up.
At that point you don’t think you deserve positive attention, so you either stay in the same fucked up relationship, or you bounce from abuser to abuser.
Ugh. I didn’t really get this one, the last panel to be exact. Can anyone explain this to me? Thank you.
That’s probably open to interpretation.
Either the guy is a a liar and using the “my last gf/bf abused me” line to get chicks or is now unable to hold on to any relationship or she is just blind to the fact that she is in an abusive relationship.
My interpretation of it was that he ended up going back to the toxic relationship anyway, regardless of how much love she gave him.
That’s what I took away from it, since the person he ran off with is wearing a t-shirt that says “toxic ex.” But those are all really good ideas!
well for asnwering this i will qoute some things
”love yourself before loving others”
”one acept the love that one think deserve”
”What “you can’t love another until you love yourself” is trying (and failing) to convey is that if you hate yourself, it makes it very hard to respect anyone who would love a piece of shit like you. And without respect there can be no love. Sooner or later, the depressed person starts wondering what is WRONG with their partner that they stay with such a horrible person as themselves and before long that can turn into suspicion, jealousy, doubt, distancing behaviours, lashing out, and even a cycle of abuse.”
the male think he deserve a toxic relation, so he end comimg back to it
ironically the girl by staying with someone ike this,is having a toxic relationship too
It may also be a pattern learned as a child since depression and mental illness often run in families. Trying to get love and attention from someone incapable of it sets the bar pretty low.That last panel was startling and genius I think – how easily the depressed character can slip back into old ways of thinking.
Oof… right in the heart. But thank you for this <3
No problem, it was inspired by your comment in #378.
Something about this particular comic feels incredibly…90’s aesthetic. I wouldn’t know much about that though. (I’m only twenty!)
Reminds me of the song “Girl with Golden Eyes” by Sixx AM. That’s about drug abuse, but the writer likens it to an abusive relationship.
I’ve heard that some people feel that either they’re being treated too nicely, or that any argument or problem they have with their healthier relationship is proof that they need the toxic person in their life to help them, thus, the last panel.