if you got some good friends i,m pretty sure it could help. but if your on your own alone. well. it cost me half of the last year getting back to some kind of normal state but the meds left there marks. heard all that platitudes more than one time. sometimes its better to get rid of the people around you so nobody can hurt you. i left them all far behind me. so i,m not afraid of anything anymore. i,m not sure about the future, but i got some goals to reach for the next years
Clay, from where did you get the pit or well analogy? I think Brené Brown mentioned once to explain empathy, sympathy and codependency. Thought you might’ve gotten it from her, or perhaps the analogy was used before her.
Luiz Fernando você sabia que agora é obrigatório ajudar pessoas com depressão mesmo que não tenha nenhuma forma de fazer isso além de dizer coisas positivas e indicar tratamento psicológico? como se tratar depressão fosse algo fácil de resolver como jogar uma corda pra alguém num buraco Infelizmente a internet tornou todo mundo otário
This comic is kind of funny, because I’ve always ENVIED the relationship these two had. I’d appreciate anyone who could constantly and consistently put up with my depressed self and still like me as a friend and want to help (as these two characters have been), even if all that friend had to say was cheesy generic unhelpful Depression Advice™. At least SOMEONE is visiting the hole, right? Even if they can’t help? It would show me someone cares, and that they’re thinking about me, and that would give me HOPE. But that’s probably just me. Unless I was providing that friend with more effort and depth and help towards their problems than they were with me, in which case half-assed advice like this after all I’d done would make me want to STRANGLE them, lol. But a casual friendship like this? …….*sigh*
A guy is walking along a path when he suddenly lands in a hole. A doctor walks by. The guy asks if the doctor can help. The doctor writes a prescription, throws it down the hole and moves along. Then a preacher comes along. Again, the guy asks for help, but the preacher says a prayer for the man and moves on. Finally, a friend walks by. “Hey, it’s me,” the guy says, “can you help me get out of here?” The friend jumps in the hole. “What did you do that for?” Says the man, “now we’re both stuck in this hole.” The friend replies, “don’t worry, I’ve been here before and I know the way out.”
Jesse Hart says
Sad but true! Thanks for this! <3
Dennis Kroschke says
no one can help you out of this mess. you have to find your own way out. thats the problem
Andi Chrisman says
She could have thrown down a rope, but he still had to pick it up. Instead she just stated some platitudes and walked away.
Andi Chrisman says
People can help support us when we’re struggling, even if they can’t fix it alone. But they have to put more effort than platitudes.
Dennis Kroschke says
if you got some good friends i,m pretty sure it could help. but if your on your own alone. well. it cost me half of the last year getting back to some kind of normal state but the meds left there marks. heard all that platitudes more than one time. sometimes its better to get rid of the people around you so nobody can hurt you. i left them all far behind me. so i,m not afraid of anything anymore. i,m not sure about the future, but i got some goals to reach for the next years
Nikki Weller says
Some people never find their way out and then leave friends and family wondering what they could have done better to help…
Evan J Sanders says
I hate those people…
FML says
Me too
Nat Ford (Mx) says
The only thing missing is the platitudes-spouter saying something with the most evil two words, “You SHOULD JUST …” As if it is that easy.
mathematiciowned says
Clay, from where did you get the pit or well analogy? I think Brené Brown mentioned once to explain empathy, sympathy and codependency. Thought you might’ve gotten it from her, or perhaps the analogy was used before her.
Also, did you finish all the tapes? Haha
Luviskol 01 says
I got the metaphor straight away. You recognise it especially when the meds start to kick in
Tom W. Trbuza says
I always thought that I was the only one that visualized my depression as a hole that you can’t get out of. Glad to know that I wasn’t alone
Jady Cardona Peres says
Luiz Fernando você sabia que agora é obrigatório ajudar pessoas com depressão mesmo que não tenha nenhuma forma de fazer isso além de dizer coisas positivas e indicar tratamento psicológico?
como se tratar depressão fosse algo fácil de resolver como jogar uma corda pra alguém num buraco
Infelizmente a internet tornou todo mundo otário
Luiz Fernando says
Nossa, n tinha pego esse memorando
Ryan Dow says
That look of smug satisfaction on her face is priceless
Jose Bello says
I cant with your metaphors…. And that “helper” is a great example.
Opti Miserablic says
This comic is kind of funny, because I’ve always ENVIED the relationship these two had. I’d appreciate anyone who could constantly and consistently put up with my depressed self and still like me as a friend and want to help (as these two characters have been), even if all that friend had to say was cheesy generic unhelpful Depression Advice™. At least SOMEONE is visiting the hole, right? Even if they can’t help? It would show me someone cares, and that they’re thinking about me, and that would give me HOPE. But that’s probably just me. Unless I was providing that friend with more effort and depth and help towards their problems than they were with me, in which case half-assed advice like this after all I’d done would make me want to STRANGLE them, lol. But a casual friendship like this? …….*sigh*
Mls says
Not always applicable, but it reminded me of this: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ZQJ6yqQRAQs
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Jacob Loren Thornburg says
This reminds me of the most tone-deaf scene in modern Doctor Who.
https://youtu.be/60iOcPw_xPU
Brittiany Hightower says
This! It bothered me so much!
Jacob Loren Thornburg says
Looking at it again, it comes across like a parody of people who haven’t been there giving terrible advice.
Ardent Slacker says
This is “thoughts and prayers” in action.
Leandra Corella says
This is absolutely what it’s like, so much so that it’s funny to me
Nathan says
A guy is walking along a path when he suddenly lands in a hole. A doctor walks by. The guy asks if the doctor can help. The doctor writes a prescription, throws it down the hole and moves along. Then a preacher comes along. Again, the guy asks for help, but the preacher says a prayer for the man and moves on. Finally, a friend walks by. “Hey, it’s me,” the guy says, “can you help me get out of here?” The friend jumps in the hole. “What did you do that for?” Says the man, “now we’re both stuck in this hole.” The friend replies, “don’t worry, I’ve been here before and I know the way out.”
Rachele Conte says
Marica Conte: perché mi viene in mente mamma?
Marica Conte says
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