My illness came after my kids. It’s been such a struggle. They’ve seen me at my worst & they know the truth of it. My oldest child doesn’t associate with me. Hasn’t since he declared his independence from me 5 years ago, at age 16. Maybe one day he’ll see me as human, not just the idealistic mother he was robbed of.
I don’t have depression, i have a pleasant life and a loving family and a positive relationship with my adopted son and my Gay partner Grant. And I enjoy these comix very much.
I don’t have any kids, but when i imagine having one i see it as a reason to live for so i can totally understand it. But my respect goes to all the mothers/fathers who don’t neglect their kids, which is a very common thing in the country i live in due to a poor education system.
YES! Except my mother didn’t care how much she slipped, and now all day every day I dream of suicide. Nothing like having no foundation of joy in life.
This is exactly what I am dealing with right now. I have two adolescents, and it is hard to be there for them when I can barely be there for myself, but I am trying so hard.
You’re ability to capture the struggles of depression is beautiful and inspiring. It helps me better understand it, and it is comforting to know I am not alone.
Thank you for your kind words, Dev. It’s very difficult to be there as carergiver when you feel yourself shutting down. And I wonder what it must feel like to those you have to care for if they notice it happening. Unfortunately, a number of people have given this kind of situation as a reason why they shouldn’t be caregivers, but in honesty I wouldn’t change my situation for the world.
Thank you again, clay. I opted out of having children with my spouse, knowing that our families were pretty much living maps of mental illness genetics and my own mother had crippling PPD. Wanted them anyway, and that’s just another layer of loss and regret that took some therapy.
TRUTH.
Too close to home, man. One of the reasons I’m not sure I will ever have kids.
Same here.
Me too.
That made me tear up.
My illness came after my kids. It’s been such a struggle. They’ve seen me at my worst & they know the truth of it. My oldest child doesn’t associate with me. Hasn’t since he declared his independence from me 5 years ago, at age 16. Maybe one day he’ll see me as human, not just the idealistic mother he was robbed of.
He will. I did with my father. It requires maturity to do so (parents are also human beings).
Same. I know exactly how this is..
And that’s one of the billion reasons I won’t have children xD
Damn, thats too close to home
Thanks for these, they almost always ring so true.
Touch a sore spot, my two are 4 and 6….. Had my illness 16 years now x
A loved one is in this quagmire right now…
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Is this a new character?
She also appeared in #243.
Bullseye: http://t.co/d8XAJmPFRZ
258 http://t.co/Y45UkVe8rX via @depressioncomix
My big goal for my kids is that they don’t have to get therapy in order to fix having me for a mom.
Some days it seems more attainable than others.
I don’t have depression, i have a pleasant life and a loving family and a positive relationship with my adopted son and my Gay partner Grant. And I enjoy these comix very much.
I don’t have any kids, but when i imagine having one i see it as a reason to live for so i can totally understand it. But my respect goes to all the mothers/fathers who don’t neglect their kids, which is a very common thing in the country i live in due to a poor education system.
YES! Except my mother didn’t care how much she slipped, and now all day every day I dream of suicide. Nothing like having no foundation of joy in life.
future me
Maina Melendez, your struggles and perserverance are truly appreciated 🙂
I admire your art that is so true to life.
Thank you very much for your kind words.
This is exactly what I am dealing with right now. I have two adolescents, and it is hard to be there for them when I can barely be there for myself, but I am trying so hard.
You’re ability to capture the struggles of depression is beautiful and inspiring. It helps me better understand it, and it is comforting to know I am not alone.
Thank you for your kind words, Dev. It’s very difficult to be there as carergiver when you feel yourself shutting down. And I wonder what it must feel like to those you have to care for if they notice it happening. Unfortunately, a number of people have given this kind of situation as a reason why they shouldn’t be caregivers, but in honesty I wouldn’t change my situation for the world.
Oh, no. There’s no edit button. “You’re” should be “your.” Damn it.
And this is why I definitely don’t want kids.
Thank you again, clay. I opted out of having children with my spouse, knowing that our families were pretty much living maps of mental illness genetics and my own mother had crippling PPD. Wanted them anyway, and that’s just another layer of loss and regret that took some therapy.