Actually this saved me, because in about half of such cases I forced myself to say yes. Rotting in my room never made anything better; sometimes being around people did.
I’d rather have people stop though. Saying “no” feels terrible and is awkward as hell and it makes me feel like an awful person and I honestly don’t see being able to say “yes” as necessarily desirable or as something to look forward to, in my case at least (since people can be quite disappointing and fake or worse, you end up being the one disappointing them; most of the time, both things happen simultaneously). Luckily for me, most people have stopped. But there’s always new people somehow xD.
I like the fact that both of them spoke clearly about the issue. I have recently tested that shutting up can create incomprehensions which can destroy even the strongest relationship. Lesson learned: never assume your partner / friend / etc understand your silences.
I canceled on some friends who were going paintballing today. It sounded like a lot of fun, I was looking forward to it. Last night hit and I just froze, thought about how awful I’d be, how much of a drag I’d be, how boring I was, why should anyone have to hang out with me? So I just went through my normal routine of playing video games at a cafe on base and spun up a lie about how I had to get some stuff for work on Tuesday.
I wish I could say yes one of these days. Before these people stop asking me to stuff too.
My GF sometimes asks me if she’s boring me with her questions because I keep saying No. Sometimes, she just needs to know, you know? Because partners of depressed people need such kind of confirmation, too. We’re 8 years together, and counting. I’m so lucky to have her.
As someone in a relationship with someone who has depression, the freckles character has been my inspiration for the past year or more. Thank you for including her.
The truth is, people WILL stop. If someone asks you out 19 times and you refuse 19 times, they may not call you the 20th time. It doesn’t make them feel good to be constantly refused. Someone actually told a group of us to keep calling her, although she will never return any of our calls. That’s abuse of your friends.
This is a true friend. If I had someone like this 30 years ago, maybe I wouldn’t be such a mess today.
In fairness, most people give up. This is not to berate most people, because the signals are there, even if they’re incorrect.
Fucking Me.
Actually this saved me, because in about half of such cases I forced myself to say yes. Rotting in my room never made anything better; sometimes being around people did.
I’d rather have people stop though. Saying “no” feels terrible and is awkward as hell and it makes me feel like an awful person and I honestly don’t see being able to say “yes” as necessarily desirable or as something to look forward to, in my case at least (since people can be quite disappointing and fake or worse, you end up being the one disappointing them; most of the time, both things happen simultaneously). Luckily for me, most people have stopped. But there’s always new people somehow xD.
Wow
:'( it’s so sad because it happens all the time. People stop caring. They just think I’m too weird ):
this, so much fucking this: http://t.co/NuzIOeoq98 just keep asking me. please. one day i’ll say yes.
I’m still here because there was someone who didn’t give up on me.
“254” #webcomic #feedly this exactly http://t.co/4C5WFAxGSl
I like the fact that both of them spoke clearly about the issue. I have recently tested that shutting up can create incomprehensions which can destroy even the strongest relationship. Lesson learned: never assume your partner / friend / etc understand your silences.
Yup. http://t.co/fZgtmYPosx via @depressioncomix
254 http://t.co/gkgsD4ol2n via @depressioncomix
Thanks for asking, even if I can’t say yes.
No, really, thank you. Thank you for not writing me off.
Thank you for not forgetting about me.
This disease wants me to turn invisible and blow away. Thanks for not abetting it.
I canceled on some friends who were going paintballing today. It sounded like a lot of fun, I was looking forward to it. Last night hit and I just froze, thought about how awful I’d be, how much of a drag I’d be, how boring I was, why should anyone have to hang out with me? So I just went through my normal routine of playing video games at a cafe on base and spun up a lie about how I had to get some stuff for work on Tuesday.
I wish I could say yes one of these days. Before these people stop asking me to stuff too.
Zoe Omega
I will keep calling!
<3
they quit asking me
Amethyst E Flynn
My GF sometimes asks me if she’s boring me with her questions because I keep saying No. Sometimes, she just needs to know, you know? Because partners of depressed people need such kind of confirmation, too.
We’re 8 years together, and counting. I’m so lucky to have her.
I’ve reached the point where the amount of people that give a shit is nearest to 0.
I sincerely hope that you are wrong about that. You don’t even know me, but I will volunteer to be someone who cares.
I’m here to be a “rental” mom…
Oh boy. Does this ever say it all. Thank you for posting this.
Ouch.
This! I am better now but this gets it perfectly
Been there.
:'(
Nachole Farrens
Too poignant
Kimberly Gonzalez
So, a comic about depression. http://t.co/mNRN8rnm7F
254 http://t.co/rT9O0eXise via @depressioncomix “Please don’t give up on me, one day I hope to well enough to say yes” How to help
true
You get it!
This. http://t.co/eNd83gA8O5
When u don’t wanna be judged
As someone in a relationship with someone who has depression, the freckles character has been my inspiration for the past year or more. Thank you for including her.
The truth is, people WILL stop. If someone asks you out 19 times and you refuse 19 times, they may not call you the 20th time. It doesn’t make them feel good to be constantly refused. Someone actually told a group of us to keep calling her, although she will never return any of our calls. That’s abuse of your friends.
Yup. Please don’t give up on me just because I say “No” everytime. I’m here, trying to gather strenght to say yes
Masha Tomkus this is why I love you. You do this for me