I sometimes wonder how much of this is cultural. At least in the States, we’re not expected to give an honest answer. It’s like there’s a happiness contest going on–if you’re not happy, you’re a loser.
(I am poly) and American, and I have a neurotypical partner. Recently he suggested I ask whether certain things are real or not real to non sick people. I asked “Is there a state of being where you’re happy, where that’s your baseline, when you feel other things and return to happy?” He said “Not real.” And honestly that’s been so fucking conforting. I feel like I’ve been stuck on the idea I’ll always return to sad, while others will always return to happy, but that’s an American fantasy. Everyone has pain, eventually we all have some type of chronic pain. We grow old, we lose people, our bodies fail us and we die, all taboo subjects, all facts. So we have got to be sympathetic to our and others pain, and help each other.
Christ, seriously. And when I finally do tell them, thinking they must want to know if they keep asking, it brings them down and I spend hours cheering them up. Life is stupid.
Jordan Robert McCalla says
I should make a set of smile cards
Forget Talking Therapy says
Erm? 🙂
LaShaun Hardy-Harris says
Once again, spot on
@OtterJake says
249 Almost worth reactivating my Facebook page to share this. Almost. http://t.co/E6hacYLLcO via @depressioncomix
Jessica Horn says
:/
Heather Bufkin says
The eternal quagmire. Wanting so badly to talk to someone, and being unable to. One of the loneliest, most frustrating feelings there is.
Forget Talking Therapy says
Yup Cool comment thanks a lot :p
Nicki Pungprasert says
It’s exactly what I struggle with. :/
Hajar Leo says
أحمد فهد شبيب كنت بدي اسولك منشن ?
Forget Talking Therapy says
Yup Sweet info ? :
Маријан Џима (@mpdjima) says
Ваистину… http://t.co/xFX5iImn6O
Mitchell Carter says
Yeah
David Blair says
I sometimes wonder how much of this is cultural. At least in the States, we’re not expected to give an honest answer. It’s like there’s a happiness contest going on–if you’re not happy, you’re a loser.
Reine Eidee says
(I am poly) and American, and I have a neurotypical partner. Recently he suggested I ask whether certain things are real or not real to non sick people. I asked “Is there a state of being where you’re happy, where that’s your baseline, when you feel other things and return to happy?” He said “Not real.” And honestly that’s been so fucking conforting. I feel like I’ve been stuck on the idea I’ll always return to sad, while others will always return to happy, but that’s an American fantasy. Everyone has pain, eventually we all have some type of chronic pain. We grow old, we lose people, our bodies fail us and we die, all taboo subjects, all facts. So we have got to be sympathetic to our and others pain, and help each other.
Sydney says
Not to mention that “How are you doing?” is rhetorical and nobody that asks that actually cares how you are doing.
Joseph Yong Kim says
The struggle between wanting someone to pour out your feelings to but not wanting to trouble anyone always was one of the worse parts of depression.
Forget Talking Therapy says
Yes! 🙂
selfhelp10101 says
Smh hmm
Johanna Manninen says
“I’m fine.” 🙁
Forget Talking Therapy says
Agreed… Cool info thanks a lot :p
Mike Ryan says
I’m soooo like this when I try and explain how magnets work. I just can’t. :'( No-one has it worse than me.
@alfateam123 says
“249” http://t.co/DZ4GjdPUHS
Samira Tahan says
That’s so sad (T_T)
Dana W says
Now this is not as much a problem for me, people DON’T ask me anymore for fear I’ll tell them.
Adina Ryter says
Actually, if just one person would bother to notice and ask, I would say something. But they don’t.
Natasha (@W1ldNat) says
Totally today. http://t.co/EJNQIj9Ayq via @depressioncomix
Koz says
Christ, seriously. And when I finally do tell them, thinking they must want to know if they keep asking, it brings them down and I spend hours cheering them up. Life is stupid.
Forget Talking Therapy says
Cool ! so much :p
@FauloLio says
http://t.co/f6akIsc4HZ haha…ha orz
@eccentricRob says
249 https://t.co/DNl4TzEnRo via @depressioncomix
yblehS (@speesbag) says
249 https://t.co/cqqpJjbZ3N via @depressioncomix
Dominic says
Can’t get any truer than that.
Jane Ferren says
This is so accurate, I need to tape this to my wall
kip says
How are these comix so flawless?
jackmarten says
where can i buy one of these smile faces masks that no body is confused by them? i’d like one!