Hello, Clay. I have come to your comix lately as a dear friend of mine has recently told me about her struggle with mental illness, and suicidal thoughts. I am grateful for your work because it tells it like it is. I can relate to this strip very much espicially that I’m still struggling to know what to say and how to respond. I follow you because I learn a lot and I don’t feel alone here, and because no matter how irresponsive my friend is, I get encouraged to continue my efforts to be there for her… I thank you…
Oh my god, this made me cry… I (used to) have a friend who does it all the time and… oh god. I have been such a horrible friend. I felt I couldn’t handle more and I just… left him alone. Months ago. I wasn’t even able to keep the promesses I made…
We didn’t get back in touch… I was seriously thinking about it when I wrote my first comment, but later I realized that there were things in his behaviour that weren’t right. He has been quite manipulative, and even if it was not on purpose, it hurt me several times.
So maybe I will just explain him all that. Or just let things this way… I miss him so much…
It didn’t happen… I was seriously thinking about it when I wrote my first message but then I reconsidered the idea. He has been quite manipulative in the past, and eventhough I know it was not on purpose, it made me suffer several times.
My friends from high school never understood why I would disappear for months at a time, no calls, no texts, canceled plans. They spent the better part of a decade berating me for being a horrible friend, going through multiple interventions where I had to apologize to them for always flaking on them. Even when I made the effort to try to placate them, they would still hold my past behavior over my head and never let me forget that I’m a flake who would never be a good friend without them to give me the supposed kick in the ass I needed. My crippling depression was a cop-out, they said. And eventually all but one gave up on me. I honestly didn’t know what it was like to have friends who wouldn’t make me feel this way until my late 20s, and even now I spend half my time assuming that they all secretly hate me. Which objectively, is total bull. They know it. I know it. But I still think sooner or later they’re going to discover that I’m a fraud, they’ll figure out I really am a flakey friend, and they’ll take off.
I am wondering if Neediness ties in with depression? Basically, the opposite of this, where you’re constantly seeking others’ approval and validation in order to feel good about yourself.. and then if they get tired of you, cancel, etc, you feel rotten and realized how needy you’ve been. Maybe it’s not depression, but low self-esteem? Has anyone else experienced this?
It’s a serious comic and all but the thought of someone just taking a bite out of a pineapple just cracks me up. Also, I now want that pineapple logo for my PC.
Hello, Clay. I have come to your comix lately as a dear friend of mine has recently told me about her struggle with mental illness, and suicidal thoughts. I am grateful for your work because it tells it like it is. I can relate to this strip very much espicially that I’m still struggling to know what to say and how to respond. I follow you because I learn a lot and I don’t feel alone here, and because no matter how irresponsive my friend is, I get encouraged to continue my efforts to be there for her…
I thank you…
Oh my god, this made me cry…
I (used to) have a friend who does it all the time and… oh god. I have been such a horrible friend. I felt I couldn’t handle more and I just… left him alone. Months ago. I wasn’t even able to keep the promesses I made…
I feel I should just write to him right now…
*hugs*
Speaking as someone who’s been on both sides of this, there’s only so much you can take, and you have to get out for a bit.
Hope getting back in touch happened/went ok.
Thanks for the hugs 🙂
We didn’t get back in touch… I was seriously thinking about it when I wrote my first comment, but later I realized that there were things in his behaviour that weren’t right. He has been quite manipulative, and even if it was not on purpose, it hurt me several times.
So maybe I will just explain him all that. Or just let things this way…
I miss him so much…
Thanks for the hugs 🙂
It didn’t happen…
I was seriously thinking about it when I wrote my first message but then I reconsidered the idea. He has been quite manipulative in the past, and eventhough I know it was not on purpose, it made me suffer several times.
But I still miss him a lot…
Maybe I will just explain all this to him…
My friends from high school never understood why I would disappear for months at a time, no calls, no texts, canceled plans. They spent the better part of a decade berating me for being a horrible friend, going through multiple interventions where I had to apologize to them for always flaking on them. Even when I made the effort to try to placate them, they would still hold my past behavior over my head and never let me forget that I’m a flake who would never be a good friend without them to give me the supposed kick in the ass I needed. My crippling depression was a cop-out, they said. And eventually all but one gave up on me. I honestly didn’t know what it was like to have friends who wouldn’t make me feel this way until my late 20s, and even now I spend half my time assuming that they all secretly hate me. Which objectively, is total bull. They know it. I know it. But I still think sooner or later they’re going to discover that I’m a fraud, they’ll figure out I really am a flakey friend, and they’ll take off.
Thank you for understanding.
I am wondering if Neediness ties in with depression? Basically, the opposite of this, where you’re constantly seeking others’ approval and validation in order to feel good about yourself.. and then if they get tired of you, cancel, etc, you feel rotten and realized how needy you’ve been. Maybe it’s not depression, but low self-esteem? Has anyone else experienced this?
Loved the pineapple laptop.
It’s a serious comic and all but the thought of someone just taking a bite out of a pineapple just cracks me up. Also, I now want that pineapple logo for my PC.