Even those involved in a relationship can’t shake off the feelings of loneliness and deep isolation, much to the confusion and frustration of their partners.
Yeah. Before I was in a relationship, I thought being with someone would make things better. When I started dating someone, even though she did her best to understand, I just felt more alone than ever when she was incapable of handling my mood swings well. My mind always tries to convince me that if I had just this one thing, it’d all be better. It never seems to help. :/
Same here. I spent a lot of time when I was single thinking “everything would be better if I just had someone.” Then in a relationship, I spent a lot of time thinking I had to escape. I started to understand that the feelings of loneliness and despair were a part of what was going on internally and nothing that was happening in the environment was going to change that.
I can vouch firsthand for partner frustration. It seems like literally everything I say can be disassembled and rebuilt into an implement of self-destruction, regardless of tone, intent, content, or anything resembling logic. As she’s told me numerous times, logic does not enter this equation. I struggle with that specifically, being a creature of intense logical manipulation. It’s how I cope with my onw issues, but then I fall into the ‘It worked for me why not you’ trap and…well, that never ends well.
I hate this one. It’s especially dangerous when you meet someone who would be able to deal with it, but then decides not to. Traumatizes you forever. It’s really second only to the “how are you”-Question. I dread this the most.
I also know from firsthand experience that being in a relationship doesn’t make the depression any less excruciating…. If anything, the depression often gets even worse, because the illness starts to affect the other person negatively, which adds to the guilt and makes you feel even worse. Depression is a relationship killer….it cost me two marriages, and I am terrified of ever getting involved intimately with anyone ever again…
I sincerely hope this isn’t what will happen to me if I ever actually get a relationship. . . I’ve never really had a real one . . . just flings, and long lasting physical hookups. . . I’ve ALWAYS felt I’d be happier if I just had one person who would love and accept me. . . I hope I’m right.
Thank you so much for your comic, Clay! My boyfriend is depressive and as much as I try to understand, I just can’t help it feeling alone and unloved sometimes but when that happen, I read your comic and it reminds me that is not me… I think that depression is an illnes that show us the beauty of sensitive and I admire how he struggle with it
I don’t understand this one.
Even those involved in a relationship can’t shake off the feelings of loneliness and deep isolation, much to the confusion and frustration of their partners.
Yeah. Before I was in a relationship, I thought being with someone would make things better. When I started dating someone, even though she did her best to understand, I just felt more alone than ever when she was incapable of handling my mood swings well. My mind always tries to convince me that if I had just this one thing, it’d all be better. It never seems to help. :/
Same here. I spent a lot of time when I was single thinking “everything would be better if I just had someone.” Then in a relationship, I spent a lot of time thinking I had to escape. I started to understand that the feelings of loneliness and despair were a part of what was going on internally and nothing that was happening in the environment was going to change that.
I’m speechless.
I can vouch firsthand for partner frustration. It seems like literally everything I say can be disassembled and rebuilt into an implement of self-destruction, regardless of tone, intent, content, or anything resembling logic. As she’s told me numerous times, logic does not enter this equation. I struggle with that specifically, being a creature of intense logical manipulation. It’s how I cope with my onw issues, but then I fall into the ‘It worked for me why not you’ trap and…well, that never ends well.
I hate this one. It’s especially dangerous when you meet someone who would be able to deal with it, but then decides not to. Traumatizes you forever.
It’s really second only to the “how are you”-Question. I dread this the most.
I also know from firsthand experience that being in a relationship doesn’t make the depression any less excruciating…. If anything, the depression often gets even worse, because the illness starts to affect the other person negatively, which adds to the guilt and makes you feel even worse. Depression is a relationship killer….it cost me two marriages, and I am terrified of ever getting involved intimately with anyone ever again…
I sincerely hope this isn’t what will happen to me if I ever actually get a relationship. . .
I’ve never really had a real one . . . just flings, and long lasting physical hookups. . .
I’ve ALWAYS felt I’d be happier if I just had one person who would love and accept me. . . I hope I’m right.
Thank you so much for your comic, Clay! My boyfriend is depressive and as much as I try to understand, I just can’t help it feeling alone and unloved sometimes but when that happen, I read your comic and it reminds me that is not me… I think that depression is an illnes that show us the beauty of sensitive and I admire how he struggle with it